Dear Parents,
The Kildeer community extends our deepest sympathies, thoughts, and prayers to the victims and their families of the tragedy in Newtown, Connecticut which occurred yesterday.
Please know that the safety of students and staff is the top priority in our school and district, and while there is no plan that can totally prevent a random act of senseless violence, our school and district has a safety plan in place that is regularly reviewed by law enforcement authorities. To ensure staff and students are clear on safety procedures, safety drills such as fire, severe weather, and lockdown, are practiced regularly. Our drills are attended by local authorities who provide feedback about the efficiency of our drills and suggestions for improvement if necessary. In that unspeakable tragedies of this nature provide lessons for learning, we will review our safety plans and implement changes as appropriate.
Kildeer staff yesterday was without question heartbroken about this tragedy. It is unfathomable the loss of all lives at Sandy Hook Elementary School. Understandably, this tragedy has evoked many feelings of sadness, anxiety, grief, and anger. For everyone struggling with these thoughts and feelings, we offer these suggestions:
· Limit media exposure. Limit your child's exposure to media images and sounds of the shooting, and do not allow your very young children to see or hear any TV/radio shooting-related messages. Even if they appear to be engrossed in play, children often are aware of what you are watching on TV or listening to on the radio. What may not be upsetting to an adult may be very upsetting and confusing for a child. Limit your own exposure as well. Adults may become more distressed with nonstop exposure to media coverage of this shooting.
· What does your child already know? Start by asking what your child/teen already has heard about the event from the media and from friends. Listen carefully; try to figure out what he or she knows or believes. As your child explains, listen for misinformation, misconceptions, and underlying fears or concerns. Understand that this information will change as more facts about the event are known.
· Gently correct inaccurate information. If your child/teen has inaccurate information or misconceptions, take time to provide the correct information in simple, clear, age-appropriate language.
· Encourage your child to ask questions, and answer those questions directly. Your child/teen may have some difficult questions about the incident. For example, he/she may ask if it is possible that it could happen at their school; he/she is probably really asking whether it is "likely." The concern about re-occurrence will be an issue for caregivers and children/teens alike. While it is important to discuss the likelihood of this risk, he/she is also asking if he/she is safe.
· Be patient. In times of stress, children/teens may have trouble with their behavior, concentration, and attention. While they may not openly ask for your guidance or support, they will want it. Adolescents who are seeking increased independence may have difficulty expressing their needs. Both children and teens will need a little extra patience, care, and love. Be patient with yourself, too.
Additional information and resources are available online from the National Child Traumatic Stress Network, www.nctsn.org. If you or your child needs additional support, please contact our school social worker, Miss Carly Compobasso at ccompobasso@kcsd96.org or myself at jsmith@kcsd96.org. Also, please check Superintendent Schmidt's posting from this yesterday afternoon for a bit more information.
